Some of my early thoughts are around the many doorways that were printed out. Each door had it's own story, it's own maker and owner, it's own history. Each door inspired some one to photograph it and to have the courage to share that photograph. The long daisy chain of events that transpired to bring each of those photos into being is inspiring. And, that each of those sixty images were picked by yet another individual, who found something inspiring in them ... Each image now finding a new home, living on as a reminder of this retreat?It is truly something that is larger than the sum of it's individual parts. I'm in awe that I had a part in the process and once again humbled by the enormity of God's intricate plan.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Tonight I finished up the cards that we will be putting out for everyone at the start of the retreat. Each person will pick one, and we will use it a couple of times during the three days. The first night, it will help sort out our small groups. It can be challenging splitting up a crowd of 60, but this should simplify things. (The name of their group is on the back of the card). I am also hopeful that we can use them on the final day, in a small group's blessing ceremony.
Monday, December 29, 2008
Ram Dass in Maui from Trixie Jinx on Vimeo.
Sunday, December 28, 2008
For some reason, this cracked me up. It seems planning a retreat requires a bag of chips, metronome, Santa fairy and a pile of books so high it's a wonder anything is left on the bookshelf. Oh, and the "Where's Waldo" bonus? Can you find the watering can? (Click through to my flickr and you will find the answer!)
My guy commented, "It's good you got those chips out, you know, in case you couldn't find your way out of that chair and got hungry."
Saturday, December 27, 2008
The real question for me sits in the New Years Eve sermon. Yes, me! doing the preaching. I am thrilled and excited to do it. The options seem endless, but I have narrowed down to some thoughts on Shalom, and Shalom as the key to opening the door to God's kingdom. The metaphors are rich, and hopefully not too mixed. There are amazing references to peace (Shalom) in the Old and New Testaments, with great passages to use. I want to make sure and round out the year on a happy, uplifting, promise filled note, and I feel that this message will be really appropriate for that. And, we do have a surprise in the mass, which will be fun.
I have chosen the readings, and I know I want to use the Prayer of Saint Francis as the hymn. I am going to take inspiration from the teachings of Letty Russell, and work her message of liberation into my sermon. I am worried, at one level, that this message will be very new and possibly challenging for a Catholic crowd. That's not my intent, but if it is, I know that Letty would be delighted if it has a few people thinking in a new light as they enter a new year.
Friday, December 26, 2008
It's nice that I have a few photos of doors and gateways, and I came across this one, which I took near sunrise on my last day in Positano, Italy in October 2007.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
The luminaria were originally placed out to light the way for the Christ child to come to each person's house on Christmas Eve. More recently, they have become a more secular decoration. Either way, they are lovely.
Originally uploaded by jaredkuper
For Christmas this year, I put our a few luminaria, out in front of the apartment, and in the windows. I used the fake flickering candles, but it felt nice to be honoring the past of my family.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Last week I made mention of some carpet cleaning concerns here at home. Yes, the carpets are about four years old. They were cream. They got dirty. So, I was looking for a way to be both Earth friendly in the cleaning, and avoid bringing bad chemicals into our home. What I decided, after looking at prices for renting, etc, was that purchasing a Bissell at Target for $79 made sense. Renting would get near $65 (or a lot more), and paying to have it done would be likely near $400. While it meant that me and my guy did the work ourselves, it also meant that we chose our cleaner (Bissell Multi-Allergen, which is rated as safe by the US EPA) and we did a finishing clean rinse on the carpet, after we cleaned it. I'm really pleased with the results. The picture shows the before on the bottom, and the after on the top. Amazing.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
My first thought when I read this, I thought "wait, I know Rev. 3:20, it's from the In-N-Out Burger burger wrapper!" I mean, I knew that's not where it originated from, but my first frame of reference for this quote was from seeing it on the bottom of a burger wrapper. But if you're not from California, let me defend In-N-Out for just one second. It's awesome. There.
Did you know this little tidbit? Each of the wrappers (except the fries) have a different Biblical reference on them. While attending UCSB (Go Gauchos!) I would drive to the closest In-N-Out, which was about an hour away, and eat there as a treat sometimes after a test. And, I noticed once, while looking at the cup that there was a quote referenced on the bottom. Then I checked the wrapper of the burgers, and sure enough, they had them too. After "investigating" and finding a new quote, I'd write them down and look them up when I got back to a Bible (as a Religious Studies major, I had at least 3 - NRSV, The Tanakh, Hebrew Bible in Hebrew). It became a little like a scavenger hunt, since I didn't know any of the quotes except for John 3:16 which is on the beverage cups. At the time, the adventure seemed so suitably "Southern California Religious Studies Major," and I was quite tickled and delighted by the whole thing. Now In-N-Out has grown, and now I've found all of the quotes, and so has everyone else since they are available here, on the Wikipedia.
Monday, December 22, 2008
And, to be included in the "expanding your horizons" category, I bring you this picture, which also has so many pretty twinkly lights ...
Which happens to be from the Metallica "Death Magnetic" concert from Saturday, December 20 in Oakland. So perhaps it seems a little um, unusual, for it to be posted right below a Christmas tree, but it was a great show. I'm no die hard fan, but I had to respect that these guys have been writing music for 29 years, and they clearly love what they are doing. It was really cool, and I'm glad I went. It distinctly reminded me that people who follow their passion are inspiring.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
My goal with this project was to make something I could wear, likely once or twice, to a holiday party. I had no grand ideas that this would be a keepsake, or that it would be taken seriously. In fact, the goal was for it to be funny, and the tackier it got, the better. So, how did we do it?
1. Buy a sweater from Goodwill. Solid colors work best, this gold one from Talbot's (at about $5) happened to be what I picked. I think a sweater vest, or a cardigan also has a lot of potential. I recommend that you wash your sweater when you bring it home from Goodwill.
2. Decide on your design. Simple, iconic Christmas items work best like a wreath, snowman, stocking, tree, Santa, or a candy cane. You want something that's easy, and not too detailed. You may want to find a picture of what you're going for on the internet (try Flickr). Decide on colors and sizes. The idea is that you will make the base of your design on felt, and then attach it to your sweater later.
3. With your design in mind, head to the craft store. I went to Michael's, and knew I needed:
For the wreath: green felt, a metallic ribbon for the wreath, some holiday leaves, and some extras like small pinecones, and berries.
For a tree we picked up: green felt, some glittery garland from the ribbon area, and then from the small craft area we got some small lights, bows, fake gems and package stickers.
4. Create your Christmas item. For the wreath:
- Using a glue gun, I attached the leaves to the base.
Once the base was covered in leaves, I started putting the ribbon on.
The finishing touch was the berries, which I cut off of another floral assortment I bought at Michael's.
- I made groupings of three (berries, pine cone, leaves) and hot glued each on the wreath.
- Little berries and gems were added around the bow.
For the tree, the steps were more simple:
- create the shape you want for the tree and its star on a piece of newspaper and use as a pattern, tracing the shape onto the felt and cutting accordingly.
- add in the garland to break up the shape itself
- hot glue "ornaments"
- hot glue a brown base and the yellow star
- affix present stickers around base of the tree
5. Lightly sew your newly Christmas item onto your sweater. (This is another place kids might need some help from an adult.) I tacked each item about 4-5 times, using about 3-4 stitches. The idea is to make it stay in place, and anchor it to the sweater. This allows you to remove it later for washing if needed.
6. Wear Festively!
The whole project, for two sweaters, cost between $20-$30. The good news is that we'll wear the sweaters twice, I hope this year. And, the left over ribbon and craft supplies will be used in our decorating. Some of the garland was already used in my cards for the season.
Good luck, and Happy Holidays!
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Saturday, December 20, 2008
I've really loved walking the labyrinth at San Damiano in all seasons, all times of day. I have an amazing memory of my best friend and I walking it together, in the hot mid day sun of August. I have funny memories of a group of us running down to it at 11pm, all going as fast as we could, and laughing and talking the whole way. My guy and I have done the labyrinth in total silence, which was not decided upon ahead of time. We instinctively touched hands each time we passed one another, and when we reached the center we sat still and silent, staring at each other until we both got up and started to head back out of the center.
Each walk of the labyrinth is something new, something refreshing. I'm sure an evening walk, with yoga folks, in the cold dark of the solstice night will be just perfect.
Friday, December 19, 2008
To begin with, the company is very focused. They decided to do one thing and do it well. He called this "obsessiveness." The key point I took from his talk was that too many websites (and companies for that matter) look like "Tokyo at Night." In other words, they try to be everything for everyone, and end up being a big smattering of flashy lights and pretty colors. In trying so hard to appeal to everyone, they actually appeal to ... well, no one.
I've thought about this over the past couple days and realize that the "Tokyo at Night" phenomenon is something that's easy for each of us to fall into. At so many levels. It's hard to for us to get comfortable with specifics that make us happy, or make the commitment to do things that we love. I feel like I'm often torn - while making a decision is attractive, I worry it shuts doors to other things, so sometimes I remain in limbo. It's almost like I fear that shutting down options will make me less interesting, more tethered to a single identity, less well rounded.
When I look at this blog, I see a bit of this "Tokyo at Night" problem. I dabble in posting about the crafty things I love, I chat vaguely about work, and I feel like I should dig much deeper into the spiritual things that I really do want to share. It's hard. It means putting myself OUT there. It means taking the leap. It means being committed to this part of my life that maybe I've been ignoring because its not popular or well understood, or because I'm afraid of what I might get labeled in my decision to talk about God.
What I see is that I need to turn off the billboards, the neon signs and all of the banner ads and the pretty lights of Tokyo in my world. In an extremely generous, and metaphorically appropriate move, I have been given two weeks off from my work in advertising, allowing me to celebrate Christmas, lead a retreat and spend time with family. I get the sense that my spirit would be best served to look inward and upward, to spend time with this piece of me, this piece of God. And see where it goes.
And right now? It feels pretty good to be walking away from that glittery town, with my back to the glitter and glitz. I know there's a Light elsewhere, starting with the twinkling of the heavens, calling to shepherds and stargazers to remind them of the birth of a Child. A miracle and a promise, bigger than any of us, eternal and full of truth, and its calling.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
My co-workers were quite generous, and other little gifts (booty socks, Peets cards) were exchanged. Our boss took us for a round of drinks, and tomorrow is our last day before we have a full two weeks off. Hooray!
This evening, Rusty and I met to go over more ideas for the New Year's Retreat. I think it's coming together nicely; we've got the overall arch figured out for the weekend, and now over the next week I need to just finish researching and writing out some of the parts I am leading. I'm excited about tackling the section around "Guardians at the Gate" which I wrote about a little a couple of weeks ago. My portion at the retreat may briefly touch on some of what I wrote about here, but its going to focus more on the Guardians to guide us and help us. I'm also going to be working on the first evening's chapel event.
Chapel events and rituals are lovely things to orchestrate. What I like most about scripting sacred events is that as much as you think you've organized them, you never ever can believe what happens when a group actually walks through them. Suddenly themes and ideas and words on paper jump to life, and have living, breathing meaning to them. Real tears are shed, real emotions exchanged. Friendships are formed and bonds amongst people are strengthened. It is truly a joy to see these kinds of things come to life, so I am honored to have been asked to lead another chapel event.
I'm also excited about giving gifts to my own coworkers. I baked muffins, and packaged up some little ornaments I got in Kansas City - each has a different word: dream, hope, joy, peace, and wish. I love my coworkers and hope they each have a wonderful Holiday break.
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
There's not much information about Adela, other than she lives in Pucallpa, Peru. She's a single mother and lives with her children and her families. This is her second loan, and she sells groceries. This particular loan is to help build a kiosk to sell her groceries.
So far, I like the Kiva experience. It does a nice job of creating a community around lenders, and giving us the opportunity to feel we know a little more about our borrower than a bank would ever allow or provide. Whether this group of people will form a bond is yet to be seen. It might be cool to invite friends or family (or co-workers) to sponsor a single borrower together, and really rally around what a group can do. For now, I'm happy to be a part of the experience as it stands. I'll keep reporting back if we get more updates.
Monday, December 15, 2008
"And I found work to do. By the time I was sixteen, I knew as surely as I knew anything that the work I wanted to spend my life doing was the work of words. I did not yet know what I wanted to say with them. I did not yet know in what form I wanted to say it or to what purpose. But if a vocation is as much the work that chooses you as the work you choose, then I knew from that time on that my vocation was, for better or worse, to involve that searching for, and treasuring, and telling of secrets which is what the real business of words is all about."
This makes me think of how it was that I came to study religion at UC Santa Barbara. Such a choice was not a popular one; as a sorority girl at a known party school, many people threw me questions such as "Are you going to become a nun?" and "What in the world will you do with that major?" Even my own father asked what I'd do with this as a major, and I was quick to point out that he had gotten a Master's degree in Philosophy, to which he said "Touche."
At any rate, in my heart, I was drawn to religion in ways that I can not explain. I loved the history of it, and I loved the languages. Most of all, I first discovered my love of this discipline in a course called "Introduction to the Ancient Near East," in which we studied, well, the dieties of the Ancient Near East. Eventually, I did an honors thesis on the same topic.
I can say without hesitation that at the time, I had no idea what I would do with this major. I knew I'd found something that spoke to my heart. I knew that I could sit for hours at a time reading about the Old Testament, and translating Biblical Hebrew, and it would seem like only seconds had passed. I knew that I would be OK, and that somehow somewhere I would use the education.
It surprises me in some ways that I am now a retreat leader, I can admit that early on I would not have seen being drawn to service in this way. But, the really amazing thing is that I find that same peace and happiness, that same sense of losing myself in a topic, that same joy when I am working on retreat planning, and when I am leading a retreat as I did way back in college, studying the material. I very much have found a home in this space, and for that I am grateful.
Sunday, December 14, 2008
For me, one of these things is making cards and stationery. There's something about the creative process that is both energizing and centering. I find that my mind can wander about, happy-like, when I am putting together paper products. I enjoy the two phases, the creation and the assembly, equally. There is often a peaceful repetition in putting things together, a satisfaction that arrives from seeing the things I have made. But I also love how a simple idea can come to life, and the joy of knowing that I had something to do with it.
This weekend I finished designing and assembling the front of my cards. I still need to put my greeting in the body of the card, and well, then send them. I love what I came up with. Hope you enjoy this little preview.
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Our theme, as discussed in this post, was "Homemade Christmas," and it was executed well. Our bar (yeah, yeah, there's a bar at our work, used for clients and happy hours and actually, meetings) held the DJs (all volunteer significant others of employees - how cool!) and well, drinks. There was fake snow on the floor and lots of classy candle and evergreen boughs decorating the place.
Downstairs was the food and more places to hang out. A conference room had been converted to a old style living room, very homey. The other conference room held the cookie contest. There was a keg near the kitchen.
OK. Remember the thing about people wearing "ugly sweaters"?? Well, folks did! Actually quite a few of them. Including some guys wearing some creeptastic fake mustaches and doing old man hair styles. My guy and I brought ours, you know, in case the ugly sweater thing had suddenly become the joke of the office, ala Clueless, where nobody actually dressed up. We were dressed nice for the party, but prepared to bust out should it be appropriate. Oh, it was appropriate!
And! There was a photo area, complete with a backdrop of a nice cheesy Christmas scene, ready for pictures. With pride, I show you our "prom" picture. (I'm looking upwards like that on purpose.)
Friday, December 12, 2008
So my alma mater, Yale Divinity School, does a nice job of putting up lectures and such for folks to view on their website. (We can thank Al Gore for this, since he invented the internet. And why I didn't ask about that?!?) Anyway, Sallie McFague gave a delightful lecture on “A New Climate for Theology: God, the World, and Global Warming,” which I thoroughly recommend you go watch. It's 62 minutes. Enjoy!
Oh and arg. In my honest and focused attempt to blog once a day for the month of December, I've come here four minutes too late to post. But let's count this anyway, since where else do you get religion, origins of the internet, elevator meetings with Vice Presidents and a mention of good old Leo?
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Migraines are a topic I intend to address at another time with a post; there is plenty to discuss, for sure. Needless to say, migraine is a neurological disease, which gets passed generation to generation. If you have the disease, it gets triggered by environment, chemicals, food, hormones, lack of sleep, lack of magnesium, lots of things. It manifests outwardly as headaches, but also involves auras (visual disturbances), nausea and/or vomiting, inability to deal with light or sound or smells, just to name a few. I've encountered all of these in my own experiences with migraines.
So ... when we re-signed our lease for our apartment, it came with this little deal where we could get our carpets cleaned for free. We've lived there over four years at this point, and the carpets, well they are cream. At this point, they are dirty. Over the last week, I've called the rental office back to inquire about the carpet cleaner and was told it was a small business that cut the complex a good rate for a standard carpet cleaning.
OK, something about this discussion set bells off in my head, as I started to wonder what kinds of cleaning products this small business might use. A quick search reveals that the predominant carpet cleaning ingredients are "perchloroethylene, a notorious dry cleaning additive known to cause dizziness, fatigue and nausea if ingested or inhaled. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) also links perc to kidney and liver damage. Another chemical, naphthalene, a solvent manufactured from coal tar, is considered toxic to the human central nervous system and a possible carcinogen by the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency."
Yikes! Even if we didn't have any other concerns about health in our household, I wouldn't willingly let someone bring those two toxins into our home!
So I've done some more searching and it looks like lots of sites recommend that you just use plain old super hot water to clean your carpets, which can be done by renting a "Rug Doctor" from the local supermarket. Or there are mix-at-home solutions that involve using ammonia, and other less toxic products. At $19.99 for 24 hours, this seems like a deal to me. And, we'd have control over what is being brought into our apartment.
At this point, after making the conscious choice to remove chemical cleaners, and make food choices that avoid High Fructose Corn Syrup (another trigger), I really feel like I need to make sure and pay special attention to everything that goes on in our home because it effects my health. For the last year and half I've been very vigilant, and I've seen it pay off. While the offer of "free" carpet cleaning is enticing, I would rather continue my vigilance and make a choice that is healthy. So, I'll report back on the adventure of steaming my own carpets before the holidays.
To see the update on the carpet cleaning, click here.
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Well, I didn't know quite what to make of this sentiment. So I thought ... am I happy? Well, yes I am. I have a job, I was able to fix my car, and I can give gifts to the people I love during the holidays. I get to help lead retreats, and I get to be around creative, fun people all day at work. My boyfriend and I are happy. I love my family, and they are healthy and well. My friends are dear to me. I have so much to be grateful for, I can't imagine how I'd be unhappy right now.
Joyful? Sure! I'm actually excited about the holidays and getting to see my family. We get time off work. There's the New Year's retreat. Lots to be joyful over.
And, I don't even know what a Pink Elephant holiday is, but it sure seemed that this guy had a bit of a Bah! Humbug thing going on. Let's shake that off, shall we?
Here's some good, free fun for your holidays!
Cute picture frames to print and hang on your tree. Or your door knob, or whatever you hang stuff on. From Jessica Gonacha at Treasuring.
Music, holiday or otherwise. Go to Pandora, do a quick registration and select "Genres" at the bottom. They have Holiday as one of the Genres. Play in your house, office or mobile phone!
To Do list templates, adorably designed, ready to print and keep you on task through the season. From Patricia Zapata at A Little Hut.
Chance to win a designer handbag, once a day for 12 days, starting today! Go on over to Luxaholics and enter already!
I'll keep my eyes open for other freebie fun. I hope you're enjoying the season, and that you and yours are happy and joyful.
Monday, December 8, 2008
Even after all this time
The sun never says to the earth,
"You owe Me."
Look what happens with
A love like that,
It lights the Whole Sky.
- Hafiz, from The Gift
I don't remember the first time I heard this quote, but it has dazzled and amazed me for some time. The idea that nature, with out any obligation, takes care of itself is a delight. The altruism of this quote is striking and inspiring. It is so rare for anyone to do something without asking for anything in return. Yet every day, nature works in harmony, without any thought of right or wrong, without any sense of debt or ownership. It happens because it is so.
If each of us can work within that same balance; giving freely, without expectation, how could we change this world? Would hunger and anger and hurt and hate and poverty be gone? I think so. If we just could forget our pre-assigned human roles, and reach for our Source a bit more, we too could Light up the Whole Sky.When I was in Maui, we happened to sit near The Levins during most of our time at the Wayne Dyer seminar. The last day, after my guy had applied some especially delicious scented lotion, Julia turned to us and handed us a copy of her preview CD, "My friend Hafiz." And, the first song on that CD is "The Sun Never Says," which contains the lyrics to the poem by Hafiz that I love so much. I want to thank them for sharing their gift of music, for introducing themselves, and for passing on the spirit of Hafiz. You should go to their site and enjoy just a little more of their great music.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
In the past, I've had paralysis on which person to help fund; there are so many on the site and so many entrepreneurs in the world, its been difficult to decide who to back. Tonight, after reviewing a few profiles, I found Adela, who lives in Peru. She is looking to gather $500 to build a kiosk to sell her groceries, and she will repay her loan in six months. I'm really excited that I've joined the group of people who will be funding her loan. It looks like we will also get updates from Kiva on the loan's progress.
Saturday, December 6, 2008
We also picked out some real treasures at Goodwill for my company's upcoming Christmas party. The theme this year (there's one every year ... the last two have been Prohibition and then Mad Men (the TV show)) is 'Homemade Christmas.' We're being encouraged to wear ugly sweaters, which is quite something. While I love a good ugly sweater, most seem expensive. How does that work, exactly?
Our ugly sweaters will be part Goodwill, part felt. I'm actually inspired by my cousin Matt, who made these awesome beauties for himself and his fiance (hardly ugly, but definitely crafty!). This same cousin made Halloween costumes this year, too. I'm totally stealing this photo from him on Facebook for an example. Aren't the sweaters awesome?
My sweater is gold, and I'm thinking a nice wreath with a bow on it will be charming, and my man's sweater will be white. I'm tempted to just out and out steal the tree design Matt used on the red sweater for his fiance and put it on my guy's sweater since it seems simple and doable.
I also have this strange idea that we should wear these sweaters for family Christmas dinner, you know, as a joke. I suppose it won't be a surprise anymore, since some of my family are regulars here. Hi guys! Get ready for some real fun!
Do you have any parties this season with funny or strange themes? What are you doing for them?
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Friday, December 5, 2008
As part of preparing for the next retreat, I've been reading a lot about door ways, entrances, gates and thresholds. This quote by Joseph Campbell, and the ideas that scary forms hide in the doorways of our own transformation is fascinating. They are there to discourage, to frighten you from entering in to true soul work. Just as a gargoyle might stand atop a tall building to frighten away unwanted spirits, it seems that the same kind of fears, whether they be in a person's own mind, or from ill advice from others, lay dormant as we search for the true meaning of our life.
These gargoyles and scary figures around the doors to our heart are our very own excuses for why we can not do something, why we can not change and why we are "stuck" in our own current situation. These haunts are the reasons we assign for keeping the doors to our heart and soul locked shut. Somewhere, deep in your mind, you know this to be true. It is more frightening to face our potential and live our dreams than to stay in our usual day to day routine.
At the center of this issue is the ego, which very much prefers the easy path in life because it gives the ego a chance to shine. On the easy road, the ego owns all the glory, it dominates everything else. When one is on the easy, unchallenged, ego filled path, one goes unchallenged.
Let's face it, our egos are attracted to shiny, pretty things. Fast cars, beautiful people, fashionable clothing, expensive restaurants and "the good life." In a way, this fascination with shiny objects reminds me of the raccoons described in "Where the Red Fern Grows;" they will grab on to a sparkly trinket in a trap and refuse to let go of it. A raccoon's interest in these pretty baubles will cause them to hold on to it until the hunter and his dogs come for him.
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Until each of us let go of the ego, recognizing it for being obsessed with sparkly distractions, we will be stuck in its trap. In reality, these distractions, of ego, of shiny baubles, of empty promises are in fact the gargoyles that lie on the path to try to frighten us away from fulfilling our promise of this life.
If one can slay these dragons and winged bulls of ego, as it attempts to draw our attention away from our true purpose, this person has a real chance at reaching the door to their soul and heart. While there may be much uncertainty, some fear, some things left unknown, the path to the heart's threshold holds the most rewards. When one chooses to follow one's passions and live in spirit, they will begin to reap the benefits of living an inspired life. Sometimes it takes hard work and dedication to reach the door, but once it is opened with love and purpose, a person's life is changed, transformed, as they journey onward to new heights of inspiration.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
I really love the collaborative process of making a retreat come to life. It's fascinating when we take a single theme, brainstorm, and come up with ideas for large and small group work, possible rituals to match our theme, and events to tie in with the days. I'm really excited to get the chance to bring in The Sacred Journey by Frederick Buechner, Randy Pausch's "The Last Lecture," and thoughts about my Grandma. I feel like so much of what I've been reading lately will tie in, and I'm really excited about seeing it all come together!
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
A couple of months ago, after buying some really lovely pieces of art for my bathroom from vol25 on Etsy, I'd thought to myself that it might be nice to buy handmade things for some of my gifts for the holidays. I figured that it would be nice to support independent artists, especially in a rough economy. I liked the idea that I'd be supporting someone's passion and calling and I know how it is when you're running your own business. So, I'd thought to myself "I should make a post about this!"
Turns out, there is already an organization that supports the shift to buy handmade! And, its BuyHandmade.org I'm super excited about seeing some of the prizes (presents, for those unfamiliar with how I use the word) I have ordered from Etsy for Christmas.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
I don't mind walking at all, and I felt smart and packed my heels so I could wear comfy shoes while I was getting to work. I don't know if I deserved a little reward for actually making it to my office building, but I did buy a small Peet's coffee to make me feel better.
So my total time today: 1 hour, 10 minutes
Usual time with the car: 50 minutes
My total cost (one way): $4 for Caltrain, $1.25 for Muni = $5.25
Usual cost (one way) $3.10 for BART, $1 for parking = $4.10 - but! when you add in wear/tear on the car and gas at .58* a mile (my corporate rate, if we wanted to use one), you add $8.12 = $12.22!!
I don't know that I can claim I saved $7, but I do feel good about being able to get to work on my own, and about not using the resources it takes to power the car. On the other hand, I feel like the corporate rate is high in estimating wear and tear, but it brings up the point, the gas and value of being able to use a car can be expensive.
Would I "walk" to work again? Sure! On spare the air days or days I know it won't rain I might. Now, the walk home in the dark, that will be another topic...
Monday, December 1, 2008
Today my car, a 1995 Honda Civic, broke down in the BART parking lot. Bless his little heart, he'd had enough and his distributor gave way, rendering me immobile, sitting in a parking lot for public transportation. There's a bit of irony in that, since I could not park the car, and it was sitting in the way of most of the traffic. Instead of jumping on the next train, I called the tow truck and waited for them, and then escorted my little car to the mechanic.
I could be upset or bitter or angry about this. It's going to cost a lot to fix. Christmas is around the corner, and according to Yahoo this afternoon, we're officially in a "Depression*" Personally, I'm somewhat in a lurch by having my car out of commission for 3 days. But, instead of any of that, I am grateful. And here's why.
1. I knew this car needed some maintenance and it broke down in a safe spot. I was not caught in the rain, in the middle of an intersection or in the middle of nowhere. I had my cell phone, and I was safe.
2. Something fairly safe is what broke first. When the mechanic took a longer look, he found that the front brakes were nearly shot, and could wear out or lock up at any time, having only 1% left on them. Those brakes have 80,000 miles on them. The distributor is what broke today, and all that did was leave me unable to go anywhere.
3. My car has 180,000 miles on it. Almost. We have gone across the country three times together, and I haven't had a car payment in 10 years. It puts a few things into perspective. If I do the math, its only $42/month since the last time I had something fixed on that car. Now that's a good deal.
4. This silly problem forced my hand on finding a mechanic. I'd looked one up last week, so I knew who I wanted to call. Now the car will have a tune up, and I'll know that I have a good mechanic to trust.
All in all, Cobie has been a great car. And, with this little tune up and fix up, I know he'll be good for a couple more years.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Today I walked over to Walgreen's to get a refill on a prescription. I could call it in, but I'll be honest that I often forget to bring my prescription refill number, and since we have the luxury of having Walgreen's across the street from the office, I just walk over there at lunch. I like Walgreen's, I like that everything under the sun can be purchased there, and I like the pharmacist because she's kind and efficient.
The prescription I get refilled every four to six week is Amerge. It's migraine medicine, and I've taken it for oh, a year now. Not the most fun thing to have to buy, but I'm good and proactive about getting it refilled. I know I have three pills left at home. And I know that since I will be traveling over Thanksgiving, it makes sense to have more on hand.
So, I get to Walgreen's and I go to the "Prescription Refill" counter. The sign there directs me over to the other Pharmacy Counter. And, yes, there are four other people in line. I realize at this point that 12:30pm, only a few days before Thanksgiving, well, of course Walgreen's will be busy. So, I take my place in line, and tell myself its good to be patient, everyone here needs something, too.
Enter "Woman in a Rush," who comes over and looks at the line and asks hurriedly, "Are you all in line?" Her arms seem to be full of various products, but its the anxious air and somewhat self-important attitude that I notice about her first.
"Yes," I reply, "I'm waiting to put in a prescription refill, and it looks like they are just working from just one line right now." I noted that my tone was even, not rushed, but patient.
"Well!" says Woman in a Rush, who proceeds to put five different boxes of Monistat, Vagisil, and other creams on the counter. "All I really need a consultation, so I don't think I need to wait in that line!" I eyed the items she had in question and had to agree, that yes, it appeared she did need a consultation. I decided not to say a thing, and just wait with the rest of my comrades in line.
Of course, this made the panic in me rise. This Woman in a Rush had determined that she was more important than the rest of us, and had staked her claim at the "Consultation" area. I felt a little pang of concern; I was ready to wait for my request, but what if this Woman decided to make an issue of it?
"Calm," I thought, "just stay calm." And, sure enough the next couple of people got helped, and it was my turn. I got the main Pharmacist, who I recognize. She says she can put in the refill, but I'll just need to step over to the "Consultation" window so she can enter it in the system.
Woman in a Rush perks right up as the Pharmacist approaches. I've followed her over, and I'm standing right behind the Rushed Woman. She says,"Oh, I've been waiting to get a consultation on these," and points to the vaginal creams. "I'm next in line."
The main pharmacist says, "I'm helping this woman now. We're working from just one line, which is behind you, and if you can wait, we will help you soon."
And, this is just what should happen, and I'm relieved and happy that it has transpired just as it should. My angst over the line jumping is over, although Rushed Woman managed to shoot me a glare as the pharmacist helped me.
So what's the lesson?
I walked away from this scene realizing there was a lot going on, and there was a lot to learn from these moments.
When do each of us make assumptions about other people, and why?
Surely Rushed Woman made assumptions about everyone in line, and had some reasons to believe she deserved immediate attention. Admittedly, I don't look "sick," so how bad could my situation be? Does it matter that you can't see from the outside that I get migraines? Would this Rushed Woman have acted differently if someone in line had a visible handicap? Or would her immediate need for a consultation been the same, regardless of the other people in the crowd.
The Pharmacist plays an interesting role in this scene.
If I recognize the Pharmacist, I have to imagine she recognizes many of the people who come in and stand in her line every day. I almost wonder if she has a list in her head of "there's the woman who has high blood pressure," "here's the person who takes anti-inflammatory drugs for their back," and so on. She knows we are each in the line, and we each have a need, many of those needs invisible and many of those needs are weighty and important to each of the people in the line.
The Pharmacist obviously takes her role seriously. She knows that people need her expertise, her guidance. She's careful to ask if I can wait for my medication or if I need it right away. She is good at her job and I admire her.
What's the lesson for me?
Each of us needs to be patient in life. While we don't know what's happening with other people around us, its not safe to assume that anyone has a greater need than we do. When we get rushed or anxious, or upset, its easy to think that our needs are more important, greater, more all encompassing than anyone else. But we can't see the big picture.
The only One that can truly see the big picture is God. I'm struck that the Pharmacist here knew more than anyone else in the scene. She was patient and fair. She did not let the anxious energy of one person take over the situation. She treated us each kindly and respectfully.
I wonder if God is often like this too; aware that each of us can get overwhelmed by our own problems and needs. That we often demand attention and become self centered, with ego ruling the way. But in the midst of it, God sees beyond that ego, and beyond our getting hung up on every day events. God lets us have moments like this, where we see that other people around us also have their own special circumstances. To remain compassionate and loving, to remain dedicated to helping each person, this is an enormous task. But God gives each of us what we need and in turn, allows us to grow. I'm in awe of the complexity of such a task, and somewhat humbled and amused that a scene in Walgreen's struck such a chord with me.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
1. Tactics of Hope
Both a website and a book, Wilford Welch has taken a new look at social entrepreneurs and their involvement with community and global change. The book makes inroads in the individual's questions of "what can I do and where do I start?" It sites amazing examples of people and foundations that have found a way to make a difference. One of my favorite examples is of "Play Pumps;" funded by advertising money, these merrigo round play ground installations power pumps that provide water for whole communities.
The book acts as a catalog of success stories, and gives great examples of how dedicated efforts can make a difference. The site allows you to look for causes that you might be passionate about, and links you up with other people who want to make a change. Both are powerful tools.
2. Awearness by Kenneth Cole
For 25 years, Kenneth Cole has made products that support specific causes - usually in his clothing or accessory line. As a nod to those 25 years, he has launched a blog that focuses on social rights, well-being, political landscape and hard times. It also features authors from the book Awearness, which includes 86 stories from ninety individuals who have been inspired to create social change.
3. Product (Red)
Product (Red) "is an ingenious idea that unites our incredible collective power as consumers with our innate urge to help others." The idea is that people shop and buy (Red) branded products, and included in the price of the product is a set amount that gets donated directly to the Global Fund. Product (Red) supports the Global Fund by having individual companies license the (Red) logo, and in turn agree to donate a percentage of their profit on that item to Africa. These brands include American Express, Apple, Converse, Dell, Emporio Armani, Gap, Hallmark, and Microsoft.
The spokesperson for (Red) is none other than social activist Bono, and he has garnered a good deal of support to promote awareness of the campaign itself.
What impresses me about these three efforts is that people are working to find new ways to support social change. While each of them has rightfully received their own recognition, they each stand out for different reasons. Each effort is working to recognize the power of a unified community, the power of consumers, and the power of individual choices in making the world a better place. How will you join this new era of hope?
Friday, November 14, 2008
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
What's happened has been amazing. There is a core group of us, bound by friendship, and we continue her work. It is truly a labor of love, and while finding meeting time in the midst of busy schedules can be difficult, we are able to stay together and work hard at something that is truly bigger than each of us alone.
Beyond that, as Sister Michelle says, we've become like family to each other. One of the most profound parts of our monthly (or so) meetings is our check in. We each give an update about how our life is going, what our challenges and celebrations are. And in this sharing, we have come to know each other well. In our time together there have been businesses started, careers changed, babies born, races ran, relationships come and gone, baptisms, a CD released, improv comedy shared, and so much more. We are there for each other. Through it all.
Sister Michelle let us know that she'd included our little team and its successes in a recent article she wrote for "Journeys," which is a publication by The Franciscan Sisters of Little Falls. It's heart warming to be included in her article. Here it is, for you to read, share and celebrate:
Sunday, November 9, 2008
We also have plans to have a Hawaiian themed dinner at our place next weekend. Partly in "honor" of our trip, but also to celebrate the friendship of a group of people I went to college with. It's a joy to see that we've all remained friends. We'll get to hear about Cris' honeymoon, our trip to Maui, and get to visit with my friend's new baby. I think it may be one of his first dinner parties :)
So, in order to get ready for this little shindig ... I've been hunting all over for a nice Hawaiian table cloth. Why we didn't pick one up at Walmart, I will never know. Anyway it goes, I know it will be a great night with amazing people.
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Car One: If you surrender to HATE you've already LOST
Care Two: Got Hope?
I was really struck by the two vastly different mindsets these stickers call upon. And what an amazing glimpse of society this was, sitting right in front of me. Car One is focused on surrender, hate, and loss. Moreover, the spirit of this sticker is buying into the western ideal that for every event, there is a winner and a loser; that there is no middle ground to just "be." Car Two focuses on the simple question of hope (and yes, I'm aware its an Obama sticker, but I'm choosing not to reflect on the political undertones here).
It made me wonder - if we had just one saying, one reflection we could broadcast to others, what would we choose. What do we each of us focus on, day to day?
I've heard that Mother Theresa was once asked if she would join a march against war. Her response was "tell me when you are marching for peace." She was determined to be focused on the good, on the right thing, on the thing that would help all of humanity.
I truly believe that we bring into our lives those things that we focus on. Every day we can make the choice to focus on hope, on love, on peace, on unity. Instead of associating yourself with surrender, hate and loss, wouldn't the better bumper sticker be "Choose LOVE?"
Choosing to let love motivate your decision making everyday can be a challenge. Sometimes its easier to pick fear, and let it motivate us to do things. Like telling a little lie to avoid hurting someone, give in to gossiping because we want to be accepted, commiserating with others about "how bad everything is these days." The list can go on and on, but I believe that we we look into our hearts, choosing fear is not our true nature. We only choose fear when our ego leads the way and when we give into thinking that we are not good enough.
When we pick love, however, its easy to see things in a positive light. We can be kind to everyone, we can be joyful, we can tell the truth, we can focus on what's good, and we can be determined to make a difference every day. When we choose hope and love, we become powerful. Powerful as individuals and powerful in communities.
As you go through your days, I encourage you to be mindful of which mindset you are following. And, I encourage you to pick love, hope and courage, even when it seems like it might be hard.
Sunday, November 2, 2008
There's a lot to like about the book. I really loved what the author did with the character of the Holy Spirit; usually a difficult concept to grasp for me. But Wm. Paul Young does a nice job of acknowledging the complexity of the Holy Spirit and describes "her" in a delightful and comprehensible way. I also loved the representation of the Trinity in the book. The relationship of the three is real, understandable and affirming.
What I take away from the book is somewhere between the thoughts of Wayne Dyer and Randy Pausch. I saw a lot of the "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" in this book. Truly, each of us makes a choice to interpret life's events in either a ego based way, or in a more universal, loved based way. When you can acknowledge that your role in assessing a situation impacts how you eventually interpret its outcome, its a huge step in the right direction.
Randy Pausch, author of "The Last Lecture" also talks a little about someone's attitude towards any given situation. He says that while you have no control over the cards you are dealt, the true test is in how you play the hand. In his case, he has terminal pancreatic cancer, and has decided that he will live each day to the fullest, and enjoy each moment as much as possible. While he is not specifically religious, this mentality seems deeply spiritual. His story is amazing.
So, we're not supposed to reveal the full story of "The Shack." It is good, and it is uplifting. I am glad that it was recommended to me.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
What I love about improv is that it has some great applications to every day life. I realized quickly that this idea, of accepting everything that comes your way, has some wonderful possibilities. So, I have tried, really hard, over the last few years to try out things that people suggest. And, I often find that this leads to the most awesome and unexpected things.
The most recent offer of my vacation was to try Bikram Yoga. This is the hot, sweaty kind of yoga - where they heat the room to about 100 degrees and then you do 26 poses in 90 minutes. Hmmm. So I went on Sunday. And I loved it. It was fun! It was easy (I swear!) and it felt like the right thing to do. I'm going again tomorrow morning, and I hope again on Thursday before we have to head home. And! I know because of Julie and other buddies that there is a Bikram place near work that awaits me when I return.
And then the synchronicity of this event hits me. A few posts ago, I mentioned that I wanted to get back to pilates - around the time that I was asked to co-lead the "Spiritual Pilates" retreat in March. So what shows up, just when I've voiced an interest and a desire? This yoga thing.
So yes, I'm accepting this offer. And I'm really excited to see where else it leads me.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Today, I met Dr. Wayne Dyer. He is also an AMAZING man. He came from a difficult past, he has written 34 books and more importantly, this is a man who speaks a message of love. Pure and simple, has found a way to give voice to his heart, and when I read his words or hear him speak, it is as if I am hearing something that is a deep truth, a universal wisdom, something that my heart and my head knew and knows, but had not yet heard yet in this lifetime. So it's an honor and a privilege to meet him.
Dr. Dyer is genuine and open. I gave him a huge hug (well two actually), and told him that since I'd been introduced to his work that my life had changed. I'd followed my dreams and had started leading retreats. He was gracious as well, and said thank you. He signed my journal. Which may seem like a strange thing to have someone sign. But it's an important book to me. It started with me on my journey of retreats. It holds the words that I wrote that eventually married my dear sister and my dear brother in law when I was their officiant in April. It has my notes from Nouwen, Nietzche, Michealangelo, the Bible, for all my studying for my first weekend retreat. It is a book that holds the everyday, the sacred, the moments that have struck me, often times on public transportation. It is with me all the time, and now it has one more thing in it that makes it special and dear. Another dream realized. Another human met and more experiences lived.
Saturday, October 25, 2008
Onward. I'm on vacation, and I'm on Maui RIGHT THIS SECOND! It's gorgeous. My boyfriend and I decided several months ago to take the trip, and then it seemed it was all of a sudden time to go. We booked a condo over VRBO, and is amazing. We look out over the ocean from the window!
We also get to attend a three day conference with one of my all time spiritual heroes Wayne Dyer. A while back, when I was quite confused and trying to make more meaning of things, I read the wise advice of Marsha Cilley who said that you should surround yourself with people who inspire you. If someone jumps out at you, read everything they have written. See everything they have done. They will bring you joy and inspiration.
I kid you not, that same week, Wayne Dyer showed up on PBS, doing his talk on "The Power of Intention." If you have not read it, I strongly recommend it. Just like he says, when you are on purpose, the right people and the right things show up in your life. Right then, he showed up. I'd started following my heart. I was in spirit and inspired.
So, its really a treat to see him here, for three days. I'll try to report back again on the second day. We get to see Ram Dass and watch the first third or so of Wayne Dyer's new movie that's coming out in January.
Last night, Dr Dyer encouraged us to "let yourself be lived by it." Let it be.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
I've now got four! (four! I can't believe it!) retreats on the radar for the next six months. I'm totally delighted and overwhelmed. God is definitely putting me through my own paces, and I sure hope I can keep up.
Sunday, October 19, 2008
The last few days have been filled with much joy. My boyfriend returned from Ohio, after being gone for two months. It is a blessing to have him home again. Now he is in search of a new job, but we are hopeful that we have a solid lead for one and he is going to be following up on that tomorrow.
Last night, my dear friend Cris got married to Steve. It was an amazing event, beautiful in the way that weddings are and can be. It is always a joy to see two people so very in love, surrounded by friends and family who are overcome and happy with the union. What I loved most was the details these two chose; from walking in to "Groovy kind of Love" played on a single violin, to promising to provide dessert, and share the last piece of sushi in their vows; it was truly a unique event. The most amazing and truly delightful moment was their first dance.
After the bridal part was introduced, the DJ introduce Cris and Steve. And then "Jungle Love" started to play. What started as a normal ballroom dance then turned into a full on choreographed pop dance routine with the two of them. The guests were on their feet laughing and cheering as these two newlyweds wowed us with break dancing moves, moonwalking and an endearing dip at the end. Who knew they'd surprise us with that? Who knew they'd taken lessons together to master the moves? They had kept it all to themselves, a surprise to everyone until the moment it happened.
There was a lot of unbridled joy last night. With Cris and Steve paving the way, the rest of the guests took to the dance floor and danced as I had never seen a group of wedding guests dance. It was beautiful and amazing. People forgot to be self aware. People were themselves, enjoying the moment, playing and laughing.
I'm delighted to have been a bridesmaid and to have taken part in their very unique and lovely day. What I'll take away from their wedding is the reminder to take a chance and surprise people every once and a while.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
I like to read on BART as I'm headed into work each day. I like that it gives me time to think and time to be alone with my thoughts. Today I thought about what it means to be fearless, really fearless.
Nouwen's quote made me think about a lot of things in today's world. What happens when people act in a totally fearless manner? How would the world change? If each of us could act without the fear of being judged, without being afraid of failing, without the fear of violence or betrayal, without the fear of others being greedy - how would we act? How would the nation or the world act if it was truly free from all fear?
I feel like Nouwen's quote is so profound, such a concentrated version of Christianity that it is hard to get my head around the totality of what he's suggesting.
It also seems like a powerful charge, to each of us, to take stock in what we'd do if we were not afraid. Of how we would live if we had no fear. Of the choices we'd make if we knew that every one of the decisions we made were based in love and met with love from others.
And so, for my part, I will try to live fearlessly. To embrace the things I love, the things I want to do, the people I adore, and to make the right choices. I will reject fear wherever and whenever I can, and I will choose love, every time, above all things.
Paula and Joseph, the Italian Greyhound at Pescadero Beach, CA
Sunday, October 12, 2008
"Because, though it happens rarely, sometimes the stars align and the moons are lucky and somehow, for a brief little blip, people just get their priorities straight, and show the best little part of themselves, all together, at the same time."
Interestingly, I read her entry just as I finished "Lottery" by Patricia Wood. In "Lottery," the main character is Perry, and he has an IQ of 76. He was raised by his grandmother and grandfather and works in a store at the marina. Perry loves Hershey's kisses and playing the lottery, is happiest when he's out sailing a boat, he has a huge crush on a pretty girl named Cherry and without fail, he follows the wise advice of his grandma. He also finds himself surrounded by some faithful friends, his co-worker Keith and store owner Gary.
One week, Perry realizes that he has won the Washington State Lottery. The introduction of a large sum of money brings greedy family members out of the woodwork, all of whom want to use Perry's IQ as "proof" that he is not competent enough to handle his own affairs.
Perry is more than capable of managing his money and his life, and as the story unfolds, we start to see Perry as the wisest, truest, most humane character in the book. He does what is right and he follows his heart. And doing those simple things that bring him joy, just like the man who had a bridge named after him, Perry finds the key to happiness and a life full of many blessings.